{"id":288,"date":"2006-05-31T11:01:24","date_gmt":"2006-05-31T08:01:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/karder.org.tr\/?p=288"},"modified":"2018-04-21T11:02:10","modified_gmt":"2018-04-21T08:02:10","slug":"mustafa-sahin-annelere-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/karder.org.tr\/index.php\/2006\/05\/31\/mustafa-sahin-annelere-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Mustafa \u015eahin-ANNELERE"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2 align=\"center\"><b><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: small;\">ANNELERE<\/span><\/b><\/h2>\n<p align=\"Justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana;\"><span style=\"font-size: small;\">ANNELERE!&#8221;&#8230;.31.05.2006<br \/>\nannelere mektup \u00e7ocu\u011funuz 1991 do\u011fumlu ve ilk\u00f6\u011fretimin sekizinci s\u0131n\u0131f\u0131nda ise, bu \u00f6\u011fretim y\u0131l\u0131nda ya\u015fayacaklar\u0131n\u0131z bug\u00fcne kadar ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131zdan daha farkl\u0131 olacakt\u0131r. \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zda, hem kendi ki\u015fili\u011fini, kimli\u011fini bulmaya ve \u00e7evresine kan\u0131tlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan, hem ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 fiziksel de\u011fi\u015fimlerle ba\u015f edebilme m\u00fccadelesi veren bir gen\u00e7 var. \u00fcstelik gelece\u011finin tek bir s\u0131navla belirlenece\u011fine kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131karak, b\u00fcy\u00fck bir kitle i\u00e7erisinde yer edinmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor bu gen\u00e7. bu genci y\u00f6nlendirmek ve bu zor d\u00f6nemi sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir bi\u00e7imde ge\u00e7irebilmek, aile i\u00e7inde size, \u201canne\u201dye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcyor. zaman zaman bebekli\u011findeki en zor g\u00fcnleri dahi aratabilecek bu d\u00f6nemi \u00e7ok s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131 duymadan ge\u00e7irebilmeniz i\u00e7in size baz\u0131 \u00f6nerilerimiz var: \u2022 bu gencin annesi oldu\u011funuzu asla unutmay\u0131n ve ba\u015fka roller \u00fcstlenmeyin (\u00f6\u011fretmenlik gibi) \u2022 ihtiya\u00e7 duydu\u011fu her anda sizi yan\u0131nda bulmas\u0131na ve yak\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 hissetmesine f\u0131rsat tan\u0131y\u0131n. \u2022 derslerinin ve s\u0131nava y\u00f6nelik \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda da baz\u0131 konularda birlikte olabilmek i\u00e7in imkanlar yarat\u0131n. \u2022 \u00f6ncelikle ona ev i\u00e7inde huzurlu ve mutlu bir ortam sa\u011flamaya gayret edin. \u2022 g\u00fcnl\u00fck program\u0131n\u0131 onun istedi\u011fi do\u011frultuda haz\u0131rlamas\u0131na ve uygulamas\u0131na yard\u0131mc\u0131 olun. \u2022 \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma ortam\u0131n\u0131 birlikte d\u00fczenleyin. ayn\u0131 d\u00fczende kalabilmesi i\u00e7in de ona destek olun. \u2022 daima onun ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6n plana \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131n. ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131n fark\u0131nda oldu\u011funuzu ve onu takdir etti\u011finizi \u00f6vg\u00fc dolu s\u00f6zlerle ifade edin. \u2022 her zaman barda\u011f\u0131n dolu taraf\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rmeye ve g\u00f6stermeye \u00f6zen g\u00f6sterin. \u2022 zaman zaman ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131klar\u0131 s\u00fcrekli g\u00fcndeme getirmeyin. \u2022 \u201cben sana dememi\u015f miydim\u2026.\u201d, \u201cbenim dedi\u011fimi yapsayd\u0131n \u2026\u2026\u201d diye ba\u015flayan dialoglarla t\u00fcm ili\u015fkilerinizi bozabilirsiniz. dikkatli olun. \u2022 onun bu y\u0131la kadar s\u00fcrd\u00fcrm\u00fc\u015f oldu\u011fu herhangi bir etkinli\u011fi varsa (sanat, spor vb) mutlaka bu \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n devam\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flay\u0131n. yoksa da ilgi duydu\u011fu alanda bir etkinli\u011fin i\u00e7inde yer almas\u0131na \u00f6zendirin. bu t\u00fcr \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar, onu hem bedensel hem de ruhsal olarak rahatlatacakt\u0131r. \u2022 onun ders ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131n\u0131, arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131yla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131rmaktan ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131n. \u2022 \u00e7ocu\u011funuzun akademik ba\u015far\u0131 anlam\u0131nda \u00e7ok iyi tan\u0131maya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n. ula\u015fabilmesinin \u00e7ok zor olabilece\u011fi hedefleri belirlemekten sak\u0131n\u0131n. \u2022 tek bir okul de\u011fil, birka\u00e7 okulu \u00f6\u011fretim ya\u015fant\u0131s\u0131 s\u00fcrd\u00fcrebilece\u011fi kurumlar olarak belirleyebilirseniz, sonradan mutsuz olmas\u0131n\u0131n ve kendini ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z olarak de\u011ferlendirmesinin de \u00f6n\u00fcne ge\u00e7mi\u015f olursunuz. \u2022 mutlaka ona derslerden ve s\u0131nav d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesinden uzak kalabilece\u011fi zamanlar yarat\u0131n. \u2022 \u00e7ocu\u011funuzun \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n\u0131, \u00e7\u00f6zd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc test soru say\u0131s\u0131na bakarak yarg\u0131lamay\u0131n. \u00f6nemli olan yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n niceli\u011fi de\u011fil, niteli\u011fidir. \u2022 bir konunun \u00f6\u011frenimi test yaparak sa\u011flanamaz. test bir \u00f6l\u00e7me arac\u0131d\u0131r. dolay\u0131s\u0131yla eksik oldu\u011fu konularda \u00f6nce kendini tam donan\u0131ml\u0131 hale getirebilmek i\u00e7in gerekli \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131 yapmal\u0131, sonra varsa bo\u015fluklar\u0131n\u0131 saptayabilmek i\u00e7in \u00f6l\u00e7me ara\u00e7lar\u0131 kullanmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u2022 onun d\u00fczenini bozmamak ad\u0131na yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z baz\u0131 fedakarl\u0131klar\u0131 s\u00fcrekli g\u00fcndeme getirmekten ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131n. (\u201csenin i\u00e7in bu kadar \u00e7ok para d\u00f6k\u00fcyoruz.\u201d veya \u201csen \u00e7al\u0131\u015f diye hi\u00e7bir yere gidemez olduk.\u201d gibi.) \u2022 aile i\u00e7inde \u00f6zellikle e\u015finizle ayn\u0131 do\u011frultuda d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeye ve \u00e7ocu\u011funuza kar\u015f\u0131 farkl\u0131 tutumlar i\u00e7erisinde olmamaya \u00f6zen g\u00f6sterin. \u2022 onun g\u00f6sterdi\u011fi \u00e7abay\u0131 asla k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsemeyin ve \u00f6yle davranmay\u0131n. \u2022 \u201cbenim zaman\u0131mda\u2026.\u201d diye ba\u015flayan ve kendi ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 \u00f6ven konu\u015fmalardan uzak durun. \u2022 koydu\u011fu hedeflere ula\u015fabildi\u011fi d\u00f6nemlerde talep gelmesini beklemeden onu \u00f6d\u00fcllendirin. (k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir arma\u011fan almak, sinemaya gitmesine ya da bir gece sevdi\u011fi bir arkada\u015f\u0131nda kalmas\u0131na izin vermek gibi) \u2022 dokuz ay s\u00fcrecek olan s\u0131nava haz\u0131rl\u0131k d\u00f6nemini programlarken, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n aylara e\u015fit da\u011f\u0131lmas\u0131na gayret edin. sonuna do\u011fru \u00e7ocu\u011funuza y\u00fckleyece\u011finiz ekstra \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar ba\u015far\u0131y\u0131 de\u011fil, ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131 beraberinde getirir, unutmay\u0131n. \u2022 onu \u00e7ok sevdi\u011finizi, elde edece\u011fi sonu\u00e7larla ona olan sevginizin de\u011fi\u015fmeyece\u011fini f\u0131rsat bulduk\u00e7a vurgulay\u0131n. \u2022 bu s\u0131nav\u0131n hayat\u0131n amac\u0131 de\u011fil, gelece\u011fin belirlenmesinde sadece bir ara\u00e7 oldu\u011funu unutmay\u0131n. sevgili anneler, yukar\u0131da s\u0131ralad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u00f6neriler, bizlerin 25 y\u0131l\u0131 a\u015fk\u0131n s\u00fcre i\u00e7erisinde onbinlerce \u00f6\u011frenci ve velileriyle ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131zdan \u00e7\u0131kartt\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131zd\u0131r. her anne \u00e7ocu\u011fu i\u00e7in en iyiyi, en g\u00fczeli, en m\u00fckemmeli hedefler. \u00f6nemli olan \u00e7ocu\u011funuzun mutlu olabilece\u011fi yerlere ula\u015fmas\u0131d\u0131r. mutluluk ba\u015far\u0131y\u0131 beraberinde getirecektir. mutlulu\u011fu yaratacak olan da \u00e7ocu\u011funuzun ilgi ve yetenekleri do\u011frultusunda kendisini geli\u015ftirebilece\u011fi bir ortamda yer almas\u0131d\u0131r. onu iyi tan\u0131y\u0131n. onun da kendisini tan\u0131mas\u0131na f\u0131rsat yarat\u0131n. \u015fair kahlil gibran&#8217;\u0131n dedi\u011fi gibi: \u201csizin de\u011fil \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131z, \u00f6zlenen bir ya\u015fam\u0131n k\u0131zlar\u0131, o\u011fullar\u0131d\u0131r onlar. sizden geldiler, hen\u00fcz sizinleler, ama sizden ya da sizin de\u011fildirler. sevginizi verebilirsiniz onlara, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerinizi de\u011fil. bedenlerini bar\u0131nd\u0131rabilirsiniz, ruhlar\u0131n\u0131 de\u011fil. \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc ruhlar\u0131 yar\u0131n\u0131n evlerinde, o evler ki; d\u00fc\u015flerinizde bile g\u00f6remeyeceksiniz. onlar gibi olmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fabilirsiniz, ama onlar\u0131 kendiniz gibi yapmaya de\u011fil. \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc hayat ne geriye gider ne de ge\u00e7mi\u015fle ilgilenir.\u201d sevgiler,sayg\u0131lar&#8230;<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>ANNELERE ANNELERE!&#8221;&#8230;.31.05.2006 annelere mektup \u00e7ocu\u011funuz 1991 do\u011fumlu ve ilk\u00f6\u011fretimin sekizinci s\u0131n\u0131f\u0131nda ise, bu \u00f6\u011fretim y\u0131l\u0131nda ya\u015fayacaklar\u0131n\u0131z bug\u00fcne kadar ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131zdan daha farkl\u0131 olacakt\u0131r. \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zda, hem kendi ki\u015fili\u011fini, kimli\u011fini bulmaya ve \u00e7evresine kan\u0131tlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan, hem ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 fiziksel de\u011fi\u015fimlerle ba\u015f edebilme m\u00fccadelesi veren bir gen\u00e7 var. \u00fcstelik gelece\u011finin tek bir s\u0131navla belirlenece\u011fine kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131karak, b\u00fcy\u00fck bir kitle [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[5],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/karder.org.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/288"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/karder.org.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/karder.org.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/karder.org.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/karder.org.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=288"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/karder.org.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/288\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":289,"href":"https:\/\/karder.org.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/288\/revisions\/289"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/karder.org.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=288"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/karder.org.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=288"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/karder.org.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=288"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}